Q&A

What does the Shalom Task Force Hotline do?

Our hotline specializes in addressing domestic abuse, sexual assault, dating abuse, and concerns about healthy vs unhealthy relationships.

First and foremost we provide a listening ear – we support you and we believe you. Our advocates talk through what is going on and help you evaluate if abuse is occurring in your, or a loved ones, relationship. We engage in helping you figure out how to safely manage the situation, focusing on providing a variety of options and helping you choose what you feel is best for you. We provide referrals to local resources such as therapists, social services, legal support, shelter, and more.

When are you open?

Our Telephone operating hours are:

Monday-Thursday: 9am-10pm

Fri/Sun: 9am-12pm

Our Live Chat, text, and WhatsApp hours are:

Monday - Thursday 10am- 10pm

Friday 10am-1pm

Is the hotline really anonymous?

Shalom Task Forces takes prides in the confidentiality and anonymity of our hotline. We have taken great care to keep your information anonymous and private.

• Telephones: Anonymous. We have masked all incoming phone numbers and disabled the Caller ID function from our hotline telephone calls so that we don't know your telephone number or who you are. When you call in, the phones display reads “HOTLINE” with our hotline number listed as the incoming phone number, and not your number.

• Voicemails and Emails: Confidential. When you leave a voicemail or complete our off-hours email form you are no longer anonymous, but your information remains confidential and protected. This is because you are choosing to leave a first name and safe contact information. Only relevant Shalom Task Force staff have access to this information.

• Live Chat: Anonymous. We specifically mask your IP address so we cannot trace the chat back to you.

• Text & WhatsApp: Confidential. Please note at this time when you choose to connect with us through text/SMS or WhatsApp your phone number is known to us. We take great care to preserve your privacy and do not keep a record of your contact information unless explicit follow up is agreed to.

• Social Media: We do NOT recommend you contact us for hotline assistance through social media. These platforms are not as secure as our telephone, live chat and texting platforms. In the event that you contact us through Social Media we will redirect you to reach out through one of our formal hotline channels.

What can I do when your hotline is closed?

You have a few options:

1. You can try calling, chatting, or texting later when the hotline reopens.

2. If you call the hotline during closed hours you can leave a voicemail with a first name and safe telephone number and we will return your call within 24-48 hours. See question below about anonymity vs confidentiality.

3. If you try to livechat us during closed hours you will have the option to leave an email and/or phone number and request a return contact. See question below about anonymity vs confidentiality.

4. If the matter is more urgent we recommend calling the National Domestic Violence Hotline at (800)799-7233.

5. If you are in immediate danger consider calling 911. Also click here for information about safety planning and keeping yourself safe in an escalating situation.

What is the difference between Anonymity and Confidentiality and why does it matter?

When you contact our Anonymous services we do not receive any of your contact information unless you choose to share it with us. When you contact our Confidential platforms we receive some contact information.

We maintain the same level of respect and privacy for your information regardless of anonymity or confidentiality. The primary difference has to do with making a report about child abuse or concerns about imminent plan to hurt yourself. If we do not have any of your contact information we do not have enough information to make a report even if what you share is concerning. If we do have your telephone number, it is possible we would have to make a report in extenuating circumstances. We hope this will not keep you from reaching out to get the help you need and consider if anonymous ways of reaching out will better benefit you.

Click here to read our** Terms of Use and Privacy Policy**.

Is the hotline only for victims of domestic abuse? Can I call if I have a question about dating, or relationships?

Our hotline specializes in addressing domestic abuse, sexual assault, dating abuse, and concerns about healthy vs unhealthy relationships.

We highly encourage you to call if you are looking to talk about red flags in a relationship. When providing our high school and campus educational workshops, we encourage students to call our hotline with any questions or concerns they may wish to discuss. This gives students an opportunity to start an important dialogue during what may be a sensitive stage in their lives.

Please note we are not a general dating coach service.

If you are encouraging privacy and confidentiality why does the advocate ask me personal questions?

We take the privacy and dignity of our clients very seriously. We may ask questions, but remember that you have the right to only disclose information that you are comfortable with and decline to answer questions asked.

Our top priority is to be a resource for you. When a contact comes in, the advocate will ask for a first name to help make the conversation go more smoothly. It is your choice if you want to give your real first name, a fake name, or decline to share a name at all. We also ask for a range of personal information to best understand your needs and provide the most appropriate guidance and local resources. For example we ask about your age, location, nature of abuse, family dynamics and more. We also ask you how you learned about us so we can adapt and best reach those who need our services. Again, it is your right to choose what you want to share. You do not have to answer any question you do not want to.

I noticed something concerning about my loved one’s relationship, can I call?

Yes. Many of our calls are from concerned family members, friends, rabbis, and professionals. We can help you figure out how to best support them during this difficult time.

Does the hotline receive calls from people in my community?

We work with the full range of the Jewish community, and our advocates are trained to be culturally competent to serve the needs of all communities of the international Jewish world. Our callers are Modern Orthodox, Chassidic, Yeshivish, and beyond. We receive calls from all over the US, Europe, Israel, Australia and more. We are constantly working to expand our referrals network in order to aid callers from around the country and across the globe. We field calls for anyone in need. Domestic abuse does not discriminate on the basis of location, gender, background, or religion. Neither do we.

Doesn’t Shalom Task Force only help women?

Domestic Abuse affects everyone. Shalom Task Force’s goal is to help anyone who is in need of support, regardless of their gender or any other characteristics. Men can and do call our hotline and receive the same compassionate support as any of our callers. If you are more comfortable speaking with a male-identified advocate or staff member, please let the advocate on the hotline know and we will do our best to arrange a time for you to speak with a relevant person.

What should I do? Can you give me instructions?

Our advocates provide emotional support and can help you brainstorm as many options as possible from which you can choose to help you remain safe. This does involve recommendations; however, our advocates will not dictate an exact plan for what to do next. Although it can feel frustrating to not be told exactly what to do when that is what you’re looking for, we take your situation seriously and expect that you know yourself and your situation better than we possibly could. We strive to be “experts” in providing support and helping you understand your options, but ultimately you are the expert of your life.

How many calls has the Shalom Task Force hotline answered?

Our hotline has provided support and comfort to over 25,000 callers.

How can someone volunteer for the hotline?

If you’re interested, please contact info@shalomtaskforce.org to be notified about upcoming volunteer opportunities.